Ways To Save Your Marriage

Have you ever gone online and typed in the search term "ways to save your marriage"? Notice how many results there were? I did just that and found almost 4 million results! That, my friend is a lot of information.



And that over abundance of information can be overwhelming. Today our problem isn't lack of information, it is trying to sift through all the information and find the right answer.



I will make that part of it a little easier for you; there are many ways to save your marriage. There isn't just one answer for everyone and every situation. There are almost always several paths that will lead you where you want to go.



Your job is just to find the one(s) that work for you. We all have our preferred ways of handling things and learning things. Find the methods that make sense to you to increase your odds of getting the outcome you really want.



Here are some ideas that can get you started. Remember, while you should pay attention to the general concept, how the two of you incorporate that concept into your situation is largely up to you:



1. You will hear this over and over again, but that is only because it is so important: you and your spouse have got to learn how to communicate.



That is the number one skill you can learn that will make your life easier in every way. You can improve all your relationships by learning healthy communication skills.



You hear this a lot but many people don't really understand what good communication is really all about. It really just means that you know how to effectively (without judgment or blame) let your partner know how you are feeling.



By keeping the judgment and blame out of it, you are opening up the lines of communication with your partner. It still may take time for them to catch on, but this is a great start.



When you are angry at your spouse for something, say they didn't do something they promised they would do, which approach from you do you think will get the best results:

"You never do what I ask you to do!" or "I'm really frustrated that your forgot, can you please do it tomorrow?"



Now, in a perfect world if you used the second approach your spouse would instantly realize that you are right and that they messed up and they would be only too willing to make amends.



Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect world and none of us are perfect. So instead of the response you hoped for (even when you use a better approach) you may still get anger and defensiveness... especially at first.



If the two of you have been using the first approach; blame, recriminations, etc. than it may take both of you some time to change the way you interact and communicate. Don't expect changes overnight.



2. Be willing to forgive both your partner and yourself. This is another very big thing to be able to do. Otherwise anger, both at your partner and at yourself for the mistakes you have made, can take over.



I don't mean to make things seem overly simple, even though the techniques I've talked about here are simple, it will take time and practice to learn to do them. But, if you are willing to learn, these are the ways to save your marriage.
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