After Marriage-Nature Of The Beast

A failed marriage can be a hard thing to deal with. You spend all that time getting to know someone, trusting someone, only for it to fall flat on the ground. But that is the nature of the beast, taking risks and trying to find that certain someone.

Like most things in life, finding your soul mate is trial and error. Nobody knows everything about everybody, that is why we get to know people so we can better understand them. But people change over time and the person you fell in love with may not be the same person today.

That is why most marriages end in divorce, because we never truly understand someone and it is always a gamble. But do not let that dissuade you. There is still life after marriage. And you will probably end up dating again.

As traumatic and heart breaking as it is, it really is just like riding a bike. It hurts when you fall off but you need to just pick yourself back up and get back on the dating train. Just because your previous marriage failed does not mean you wont find someone else who might be more compatible with you.

The problems you face after marriage is that you are left hurting. You opened yourself up to someone, you made yourself vulnerable and it came around to bite you in the butt. Why subject yourself to that again? Because nobody wants to be alone, we all want someone we can confide in and  trust.

So while it may be difficult you should never give up. That does not mean you should walk the same path, though. There are probably reasons why your marriage failed and you would not want to repeat those same mistakes.

The thing you have to keep in mind is that we learn from failure. After you take the time to heal your wounds and move on with your life, you may find yourself in a position where you are able to look back and reflect on your marriage.

Try to find out what went wrong. Were you blinded by love and ignored the warning signs that they weren't your ideal spouse? Did you cause the problems and they simply could not handle it? Did you force yourself to be with someone who didn't deserve you simply because of peer pressure or because you were afraid of being alone?

These are all questions you should ask yourself. When you find out where everything went wrong, make sure you avoid repeating those mistakes. Make sure you find someone you are compatible with. While people do change, they only change on the outside.

The heart of a person never changed so you can get a glimpse of the future by taking note of their true nature. They may seem nice now but there are always warning signs. Just make sure you learn from your mistakes and keep trying, there are seven billion people on this planet, your special someone is out there somewhere. You just have to keep looking until you find them.